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Don’t Let Grief Overcome You

Losing a loved one can have a significant impact on those left behind. This month, Hannah Montague reminds us there are still life affirming lessons to be learned from death…

Anger, depression and loss of purpose are all associated with grief and if you are working your way through these dark days at the moment, don’t worry, you are not alone.

As a probate specialist, I perhaps see more of the grieving process than most and whilst everyone deals with it differently, there are common emotions that recur time and again.

I recently came across an article that reminds people to celebrate the positives in life and cherish the time we spend with family and friends. Written by psychotherapist, Joyce Marter, it offers five inspirational lessons to focus on when grieving. It might not help everyone, but hopefully, it can provide some food for thought. I have paraphrased them below:

Life is a gift: Death reminds us that life is precious, temporary and not to be taken for granted.

You are not your CV: When someone delivers a eulogy, they rarely recite work achievements. You are more likely to be remembered for how you made people feel.

Live life in the present: We are all guilty of worrying about the past and what the future may hold. Death brings us back to the here and now.

Celebrate the resilience of the human spirit: Death can bring unbearable hardship, but this may lead to growth and opportunities. Through loss, you can find immense sense of character.

Materialism is only skin deep: Don’t place too much emphasis on achievement, money, possessions and beauty. Death often shows us love is the greatest currency.

None of us wish to add to our family’s suffering when we die, which is why it is so important your affairs are in order. If you don’t have a will, there’s no time like the present to put one in place.

It is equally important to make sure your will is up to date. We recommend reviews every five years, or earlier if a major life event comes along, like marriage or children. It might also be worth considering drawing up Powers of Attorney to sit alongside your will and ensure your assets and welfare can be taken care of by those you trust the most, should you be unable to manage them yourself.

To find out more about making or reviewing a will, why not book a free 30-minute consultation with one of our probate specialists? Call (0114) 218 4000, email: or complete this form.

Hannah Montague

Hannah Montague is a solicitor in our wills and probate department. Hannah specialises in the administration of deceased estates, wills, powers of attorney, Court of Protection applications and advising the elderly. For more information on this topic email or call her on 0114 218 4342.

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