Everyone’s reasons for ending a relationship are unique, but our worries about going it alone are remarkably similar.
If you are having thoughts about separating, it is wise to find out the facts before changing life as you know it irreversibly. Here are my top tips for a dignified divorce.
Do:
Take a deep breath
Reflect on your situation and talk through your feelings with friends or family. Make sure you look after yourself – you need to be in good shape to deal with the months ahead.
Make a list
Before seeing a solicitor, write down your questions, so you can cover everything you wish to discuss. Some clients find this initial meeting very stressful, so it may help to bring a friend for support.
Focus on your children
Put children at the centre of any decisions and you won’t go far wrong. Do you want them to worry about inviting both parents to their wedding?
Seek legal advice as soon as possible
It is important to know where you stand. Make sure you know your rights and responsibilities, as well as the options available to you.
Don’t:
Panic
You will be fine. The law is there to ensure both parties’ needs are met and your settlement is fair. Before making any decision, think carefully about whether counselling could help you get back on track.
Take revenge
Cutting up your partner’s clothes may offer momentary satisfaction, but it sends out the wrong message about how you will deal with the separation. As hard as it may be, grit your teeth and take the moral high ground. Remember, those clothes need replacing and where will the money come from?
Transfer money or try to hide it
It does not work and once it becomes apparent what you’ve done, the courts take a very dim view.
Rely on the legal advice of friends
There are many myths about divorce law and consequently, no substitute for expert advice.
For information about Taylor&Emmet’s family law services, call (0114) 218 4360 or email info@tayloremmet.co.uk
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